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The Best Sex Toys for Couples
From bullets to double dildos, the excitement of trying something new might just intensify your intimacy levels…
Toys are a great way to intensify sex with your partner. While the science behind the gadgets will help you increase pleasure, the excitement of trying something new will also strengthen the intimacy between you. But each type of sex toy supports a different type of pleasure, so here’s a helpful guide to help you decide which one to try.
The bullet hasn’t earned its solid reputation without good reason. The notoriously reliable, inexpensive and attentive bullet is great for both couples and solo-sex-havers. To use a bullet during partnered sex, simply place it between the two of you, either against your genitals or nipples, and enjoy the effects! Feel free to experiment with speeds and pattern settings to see what the two of you enjoy most. Bullets come in a range of exterior materials, but for couples’ play, I prefer something made of soft silicone. This rechargeable power bullet from Ann Summers is perfect. The velvety material will feel soft between your bodies, so much so that you may forget it’s there…
The Lelo Sona 2 is a simply magical toy. This tiny gadget fits comfortably over the clit and performs a sucking motion, mimicking the feeling of oral sex. This can, of course, be used for masturbation effectively. But it’s also a fun addition to partnered, PIV (penis in vagina) sex, as you can, erm, kill two birds with one stone. While the Lelo toy takes care of external stimulation, helping you reach orgasm while “sucking” on the clitoris, your partner can get to work on the G-spot side of things. It’s also a great substitute in case you or your partner get lockjaw (it happens to the best of us).
There are many clitoral-suction toys on the market, but unlike others, the Lelo toy uses sonic waves and pulses to push the user to the edge. And with the largest surface area of any clit-suction toy, it boasts potential for intense pleasure. It also features a unique control method,rather than using fiddly buttons or wheels, this toy reacts intelligently to touch. When you press the toy firmly against your body, I t responds by increasing the vibration intensity. Clever, huh?
Looking to spice up your long-distance loving? This can be challenging, but remote-controlled, distance-friendly sex toys completely change the game. The Lovense Lush 2 Remote-Control Vibrator serves fun inside and outside of the bedroom. This can be used on dates, during partnered sex, and even during the time you spend apart. This toy comes with a handy app where you can control your partner’s sexual experience from afar, commanding the speed and pattern the toy delivers while your partner wears it. This double-ended vibrator is designed to stimulate the G-spot and clitoris simultaneously, making for an amazing sex experience.
The We-Vibe Match vibrator has been so successful, it’s inspired a thousand mimics, but nothing is quite like the original. This toy is double-ended, with one part focusing on the clitoris and the other made for stimulating the G-spot. What makes this toy unique, however, is the section made to insert into the vagina is slender and flexible, meaning it can be worn during penetrative sex. That’s right, if you have a vulva, you can allow this toy to work on your clit and vagina while also receiving penetrative sex. If you’re the one with the penis, this toy’s vibrations will feel amazing against the shaft, helping achieve orgasm. What’s more, this toy comes equipped with remote control options, so you and your partner can enjoy masturbation play where you have command over each other’s sensations!
Unbound Babes are known for their cute, pastel coloured toys with non-intimidating product names (they sound more like Lush products than sex toys!) This Saucy vibrator is shaped like a flying saucer and sent in Illuminati-inspired packaging, so it’s a super fun, novelty toy. The exterior is very flexible, making the ‘one size fits all’ nature of sex toy design much more realistic. Squishy yet powerful, the Saucy vibrator is completely waterproof. So if you’re a fan of shower or bath sex, invite this handy toy in with you next time! It’s also very quiet, so it’s a good option for those lacking privacy.
Designed for couples with vaginas, this double dildo allows for simultaneous, shared penetration. Wet for Her is a sex toy company created by women, for women. The great thing about this is… no penises! This toy throws away all the tired ‘traditions’ around dildos; the phallic resemblance, the inconveniences of a strap-on and the awkwardness of harnesses. Instead, it provides a new way to be intimate with your partner while feeling every inch of them.
Some smaller honourable mentions: This WooWoo Bliss Arousal Oil will help you and your partner maximise pleasure even further. The sensual scent and CBD infusion helps you feel completely relaxed, supporting easy climax. One more tip, use lube! I’m a big fan of using flavoured lube to make blowjobs more fun, such as this Strawberry Lubricant from Superdrug. A lot of people, especially young women, are apprehensive about lube as there’s a judgemental stigma attached. There’s absolutely no shame in using lube. In fact, you should be using it wherever possible for added support and fun!